Dr. Terry E. Zebulske, Pastor
Grace Community Church
January 14, 2007
 
THE DUTY OF ALL CHILDREN
(Ephesians 6:1-3)
 
…What do you highly prize in your life?  We may think of several things that fit this category.  Did you know that God calls each of us to highly prize our parents?  The 5th Commandment requires us to “honor” them. 
…Paul, in unfolding what it means for us to walk with the Lord, tells that submission is central.  We are to submit to “one another,” a wife is to submit to their own husband, and now he tells us that children are to submit to their parents.  All children are required to both obey and honor their parents.   No generation gap…
…Paul tells that it is the child’s duty to obey and it is the parent’s duty to teach obedience.  To teach a child to obey is to teach him to obey God.  If you don’t teach him to obey, then you are teaching him to defy God.
TWO COMMANDS DIRECTING US TO SUBMIT TO OUR PARENTS SO THAT WE WILL ENJOY THEM AND A LONG LIFE.
…This is the only command found in the Scriptures that is directed solely to children.
I.                  We, As Children, Are Commanded To Obey Our Parents. (v.1)
…This is an act or an action.
A.      Paul uses a different word from the earlier word for submission.  He uses the word that means to “be under the hearing of.”  It means to listen and then do what you are told.
…The sense of the imperative is that this should characterize your life. (durative)
B.       To whom is Paul is speaking?  The word “children” here does not particularly refer to young children, but to all offspring.   Sons and daughters ‘still under roof’ are in focus. 
C.       Jesus set a wonderful example for us in this.  (Luke 2:51-52)  Remember, He was the Creator, yet, He obeyed His earthly parents.  He always chose to obey them.  Always. 
…The so-called “generational gap” is Satan’s attempt to ruin homes.  He has been successful at…
D.      Paul gives us the manner of the obedience we owe our parents.  ‘in the Lord.”  (v. 1)
1.  Parents are God’s proxies, that is, they stand in the place of God to their children. (loving, providing, and law-giving)  Shakespeare:  “God’s lieutenants.”
2. We are to obey them in everything, as long as they don’t ask us to disobey God.
E.       Paul gives the reason for our obedience, “it is right.” 
…Boice states that this is NATURAL LAW.  This means that God has stamped this upon the hearts and conscience of all people.  We know by nature this to be true. 
…Here God, through Paul, tells us that it is RIGHT.  God alone determines what is right…
II.              We, As Children, Are Commanded To Honor Our Parents.  (vv.2-3)
…This is far more than mere obedience, it goes to the heart, and touches our attitude.
A.      The word here for “honor” means: “to hold in the highest possible regard,”  “to highly prize.”
…The 5th Commandment “honor” in Hebrew, “KAVOD,” means “to be heavy.”  This meant to give weight to someone.  (Exodus 20:12)
B.       We are to honor both our Dads and Moms.  Many of the pagan religions totally disregarded the mothers.  As we grow into adults and move out of our parents home, we no longer have to obey them, but we never come to the place where we stop  “honoring them.”   Never!
1.  This may be a difficult area for some for not all parents live in such a way that their children can properly honor them.  (abuse, undisciplined, lack of love for,etc)
2. If this is a problem for you, study your parents and pick out those areas in which you can properly honor them.  (ex. of Dr. Boice)
C.       Our motivation for this is given: it is the “first commandment with promise.”  (v. 3)
…in reality, it is the only one of the 10 commandments given with a promise.  Perhaps: primary…
1.  If you do this…it will be well with you.  This is the God-blessed and favored life.
2.     Furthermore, if you do this, then your days will be many, which means that you will  live God’s intended years without being ‘cut-short.’  (ex. Ananias, Acts 5:1-6)
LESSONS FOR OUR LIVES:  Some practical ways that we, as adults, can honor our parents.
1. We can do so by always speaking kindly to them…properly toned and with affection.
2. We can do so by making provision for their material needs. 
3. We can do so by being considerate of them by giving them our time to be with them, include them.
4. We may need to honor them by forgiving them of wrongs. 
5. We are to honor our parents as long as we live.  We never out throw this!
6. Parents we are required to teach this to our children.  We must also expect/demand obedience.
7. Perhaps your lack of obedience/honor means you are unsaved.  Today come to the savior!!